I am irritated when somebody promises to call on a specific day and time, then doesn't. I hate waiting for a phone call (especially from a cute guy I just met).
I realize there are some unwritten rules about how long one should wait before calling somebody back coz if you call too soon you seem desperate; but I don't think you should wait too long either. "You snooze, you lose." I don't like getting phone calls 2 or 3 months later from some number I can't identify with the phrase "Guess who?" Hello, you called me, so please identify yourself. If we met for about 2 minutes at some dim-lighted pub or club after having a few drinks, chances are I won't remember you. And you probably don't remember me too well either. I'm quite simple, I've stopped giving out my number to people I have no intention of meeting with. And I will tell them that. I think it's immature to give out fake numbers, and the rejection hotline # should be reserved for true assholes. I wonder if some people are just competing to collect phone numbers, coz they never call. It's not that big a deal if you don't know each other well. But once in a while you sense a connection--then never hear back from that person. Some guys do play mind games with this whole phone call thing. Let's see what happens.
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funny you bring this up coz we were just discussing with a pal the whole idea of going out to collect phone numbers...
I think a chile can give you her right number and you still get none. in fact I never ask for a chile's number and there are a few chilez who have later asked why I didn't ask for their #.
I wait for hints and if I get the contacts and I do intend to call, I will call probably the next day...no mind games
I agree with you on this issue!!! Don't ask for a number if you don't plan on calling!!!
There is a wait period. Didnt know that. What about those ones who give their number of their own volition but will not pick up the call or return it when the see the missed call or sms? It boggles the mind. I call once...just once...send a breif sms and that is it...you have 24 to reply. If none is forthcoming...delete is a very useful tool. :-)
I dont give people my phone numbers unless there is something of importance to get from them. I too hate being kept beside the phone waiting for a call like when you were having a conversation and you told am calling you in 5 mins then light call has to force you go out arrgh. Good to have you back.
If I get a number, I use it. This thing of ati wait for so long kabla calling... just mindless mind games. I'm with Aegeus. If I haven't heard back from you after calling/smsing within a reasonable time frame, then it's sayonara to that number.
For some reason I think chics are more of the culprits when it comes to the not calling....which makes me wonder why give a dude your # if you don't intend on answering call.
Oh yeah, that guess who stuff irks me too.
I just read your first line and had to comment. Gal tell me about it. If you say "I will call at x"- call at "x" waacha mchezo
going back to read the rest of the post now
All I know is the bible say "let your yes be yes and your no be no"- and now you are wondering where I am coming from- not to worry. My point- if you don't want sema, if you want- sema. Alaafu hii ya guess.....please stop wasting both our times. Sii you cut the call then I guess all together!!!!
If I ask for your number, I will call. I just don't want to held on as to when I will call.
I will probably call the next day or within a week.
@3n,
Chilez can give out their numbers to guys who seem like a pleasant distraction even if there's no potential for hooking up.
Glad you call promptly and don't leave them hanging with suspense!
@Princess,
I'm glad we agree! Kwani what do people do with numbers, just collect them so they can show off to their buddies or what?
@Agiasi,
It doesn't make sense to ignore a call after willingly giving out a #. 'Delete' is a useful feature.
@Nakeel,
Too many people abuse this whole phone number thing. It's better to be picky about who you give it to.
@Egm,
The phrase "mindless mind games" sums it up so well!
@Quintessence,
I must confess that in my younger, immature days, I'd sometimes give out my # coz it seemed like the easy way out. Then I realized it's such b.s. and very irritating.
@3 types of crazy,
People should be straight up about what they want to make life simpler. I don't like guessing either.
@Seasons & Reasons,
A day or a week is ok, my beef is when somebody specifies what day and time they will call--then they don't. It's annoying.
Am so guilty of not returning calls. I forget..... it is never intentional. I am one of these people that has to rely on diaries etc to manage my life.
So I never promise a day or time anymore...... I just say I will call and sometimes I get to do it within a month or two
Some chicks give a guy the no for city mortuary. You call to shtukia "Unataka maiti gani??" at the other end LOL
Call the guy instead of waiting... I prefer to call than wait to be called. It removes the pressure.
Interesting Discussion going on..
Bt I only give out my number when am interested if not why should I?
i don't like phone conversations (if i used to call MJ's profit would have been 18 billion), so i try not to ask for numbers (methu, inexes...SHH!), i ask for hook ups instead...that way you kill three birds...you get her number, when you call her sio kumuuliza 'guess who?' but 'uko?' and i get to meet her outside the rave...where i get to know whaat kind of 'mammal' she be.
so no unnecessary waiting periods!
I tagged you check my house.
I am so bad on the phone. I have a cell phone with like a million minutes, but I am terrible at calling or even staying on the phone! Phone is still so impersonal for me, hata sijui kwa nini?
Same thing happened to me. I almost went crazy why I didnt get his number. (we always convince ourselves that it got lost somehow) perhaps he didnt save it right. But I learnt to let go.
First time here.
Hmm interesting manenos up in here.. .
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